Dear Single Ladies,
I want you to know something: there is nothing wrong with you.
Your age doesn’t matter. Nor does the number of dates you have been on, or the boyfriends you have or haven’t had.
You are an amazing, incredible woman who was created by a God who loves you more than you can possibly know. The life you live isn’t random, but foreseen by the God who created the entire universe. He knows you, and holds your heart in His hands. You are never forgotten.
You shouldn’t be marginalized; you should be celebrated. There is strength in your bones and a desire in your heart to do something.
You may climb mountains, teach children to read, write songs, feed the hungry, or win marathons. You will change your little corner of the world.
And regardless of what the world may tell you, don’t get discouraged. You may feel lonely, and sometimes you might even feel like you’re doing it wrong. But, friend, don’t believe it.
Don’t spend your time just waiting for Mr. Right. The problem with waiting is that we end up treading water, missing opportunities because we think we need a spouse to pursue our dreams. And sometimes you do.
But sometimes, God gives us dreams that exceeds our imagination, something beyond our wildest dreams. And He wants us to chase them now. Not when we get married, but now.
Society expects us to finish school, get a job, get married, and have kids. Primarily in that order. And for those who do that-more power to you. There is beauty in that, and I celebrate with you.
But for some of us, life doesn’t pan out that way. And far too often, we are pushed to the sidelines. Viewed as deficient in something. People treat us differently, and feelings of failure start to creep in.
But singleness is not a disease. It’s not falling short. <-Click to Tweet
If we accept it with arms wide open, we can embrace our singleness and find joy in it. Rather than feel like we are missing out, we can join in and chase our dreams alongside our married friends.
It’s not easy, friends. It’s June now. That’s wedding season. As a 20-something girl who is single, I get it. With each friend that gets married, the expectations mount. The questions follow. The “well someday, your turn will come” comment pops up left and right.
But I refuse to tell people I’m waiting for Mr. Right. Because he might never come. I know some of you shudder to hear that, but it’s the truth. Not everyone gets married (despite what Facebook might make you think). For some of us, this “single season” will last a lifetime. And it’s not something to be ashamed of, friends.
I’m embracing the dreams God has given me, right where I am. Will you do the same?
Linking up with Holly Barrett at Reclaiming a Redeemed Life for #TestimonyTuesday.